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Should I Stay or Should I Go? gives couples a realistic framework for evaluating whether their partnership can be salvaged or must end. Dr. Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?, and women’s advocate JAC Patrissi present straightforward exercises and advice to help readers: distinguish healthy but challenging relationships from toxic ones, spot signs of serious problems, prioritize personal growth, plan constructive actions, and prepare for the possibility of separation while still attempting to improve the relationship.
First publish date: 2011
Genre: Psychology/Social Psychology
Authors: Lundy Bancroft
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