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In "Why Does He Do That?", counselor Lundy Bancroft draws on his experience with abusive men to explain the psychology behind controlling behavior. The book offers practical insights into early warning signs, common myths, personality types of abusers, the influence of drugs and alcohol, and strategies for leaving safely. It serves as a resource for women seeking to identify abuse and reclaim their lives.
First publish date: 2002
Genre: Psychology/Social Psychology
Authors: Lundy Bancroft
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