Books like When dad hurts mom by Lundy Bancroft

Lundy Bancroft’s guide helps women recognize the warning signs of abusive relationships, understand how abusers think, and find safe ways to regain control.

Trauma and Recovery, by Judith Lewis Herman, is a foundational examination of the causes, treatment, and societal context of post‑traumatic stress disorder, drawing on research in domestic violence, combat, and political terror.

A practical guide for recognizing and escaping verbal abuse in intimate relationships, offering validation, strategies for self‑defense, and resources for both victims and abusers.

A professional guide that combines psychological theory and survivor testimony to illuminate the experience and aftermath of mother‑daughter incest.

From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.

"Each new day. One new meditation. One new step forward. Even if you've read Why Does He Do That?, it may be hard to see the truth of what is happening to you. You may feel overwhelmed by confusion, loss, and fear, and find yourself looking away from the truth and falling back into traumatic patterns. What you need is something that is there for you every day--to help you make a long series of little changes that will ultimately add up to a big one. Like a constant friend, this collection of meditations is a source of strength and reassurance designed to speak to women like you, women in relationships with angry and controlling men. It helps you to digest what is happening a piece at a time, so that you can gain clarity, safety, and freedom. To learn to value and respect yourself--even when your partner makes it very clear that he does not--each day centers on one of seven themes designed to empower, encourage, and inspire you. Each New Day * Clarity * Your Own Best Friend * Your Relationships * Healing * Guiding Children * Surviving to Thrive You will see the truth in your destructive relationship. You and your children will survive. And--with these encouragements--even tomorrow will be a better day than today"--

A practical guide for partners questioning their relationship, offering tools to assess worth, recognize abuse, and decide whether to stay or move on.

A practical guide for identifying and ending emotional abuse in relationships, offering step‑by‑step strategies for both victims and abusers to heal and rebuild healthier dynamics.