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Why Are We Yelling? shows how our current ways of arguing—whether about politics, hobbies, or everyday choices—often break down into unproductive conflict. Benson, a Silicon Valley entrepreneur with two decades of experience facilitating tough conversations in major tech companies, argues that old conversational habits keep us stuck. He proposes eight habits that replace the urge to win with the goal of mutual understanding. The book teaches readers to recognize different types of arguments, appreciate four fruits of disagreement beyond “winning,” and accurately articulate an opponent’s perspective before responding. With these tools, readers can turn frustrating disagreements into opportunities for growth, collaboration, and profound connection.
First publish date: 2019
Genre: Self-Help & Personal Development/Relationships & Communication
Authors: Buster Benson
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