Books like Monogamy by Adam Phillips

Erich Fromm examines love as a practiced art rather than a simple feeling, distinguishing types such as brotherly, motherly, erotic, self‑love, and love of God, and urging genuine care amid modern superficiality.

Esther Perel explores why passionate sex often fades in long‑term relationships and how to rekindle desire amid the demands of domestic life.

Explores adult attachment theory, showing how genetics and early family life shape relationship patterns and helping readers find and maintain love.

Alain de Botton’s contemporary romance follows couple Rabih and Kirsten in Edinburgh as they navigate marriage, parenthood, and the day‑to‑day challenges of love, showing how commitment deepens beyond first infatuation.

Sex at Dawn argues that human sexuality evolved in egalitarian, non‑monogamous communities, challenging long‑standing beliefs about monogamy, marriage, and family.

A practical guide for those exploring non‑monogamous relationships, offering skills, ethics, and exercises for healthy polyamory and open communication.

Esther Perel examines infidelity as a lens on love, lust, and commitment, blending case studies with psychological insight to challenge myths about marriage and explore how affairs can reveal and reshape intimate bonds.

A practical guide to understanding the key elements of great relationships.

Applying new research to sex in the animal world, esteemed scientists David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton dispel the notion that monogamy comes naturally. In fact, as The Myth of Monogamy reveals, biologists have discovered that for nearly every species, cheating is the rule -- for both sexes. Reviewing findings from the same DNA fingerprinting science employed in the courtroom, Barash and Lipton take readers from chickadee nests to chimpanzee packs to explain why animals cheat. (Some prostitute themselves for food or protection, while others strive to couple with genetically superior or multiple mates.) The Myth of Monogamy then illuminates the implications of these dramatic new findings for humans, in our relationships, as parents, and more. The Myth of Monogamy at last brings scientific insight into this emotionally charged aspect of the ultimate dating and marriage quandary.

The Love Test is a scholarly exploration of the psychological dimensions of love, intimacy, and marriage, examining man‑woman relationships, sexual dynamics, and the emotional science that shapes enduring partnerships.

The definitive book on marriage, from the author of Unfinished Business, who describes what really goes on in a marriage; why one chooses a certain partner, what systems get set up; what the primary sources of conflict are. This work pushes beneath the surface of marriage to explore the depths of true intimacy.

A practical guide that helps couples and individuals identify and improve intimacy through clear exercises and communication strategies.