Books like Becoming a man by Paul Monette
A child of the 1950s from a small New England town, 'perfect Paul' earns straight A's and shines in social and literary pursuits, all the while keeping a secret—from himself and the rest of the world. Struggling to be, or at least to imitate, a straight man, through Ivy League halls of privilege and bohemian travels abroad, loveless intimacy and unrequited passion, Paul Monette was haunted, and finally saved, by a dream of 'the thing I'd never even seen: two men in love and laughing.' Searingly honest, witty, and humane, Becoming a Man is the definitive coming-out story in the classic coming-of-age genre.
First publish date: 1992
Genre: Memoir/Personal Memoir
Authors: Paul Monette
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