Books like Sexual Unfolding by Lorna J. Sarrel

"Be sexy but not sexual. Don't be a prude but don't be a slut. These are the cultural messages that rain down on teenage girls. In movies and magazines, in music and advice columns, girls are portrayed as the object or the victim of someone else's desire - but virtually never as people with acceptable sexual feelings of their own. What teenage girls make of these contradictory messages, and what they make of their awakening sexuality - so distant from and yet so susceptible to cultural stereotypes - emerges for the first time in frank and complex fashion in Deborah Tolman's thoughtful and readable book.". "A look into the world of adolescent sexuality, this book offers an intimate and often disturbing, sometimes inspiring, picture of how teenage girls experience, understand, and respond to their sexual feelings, and of how society mediates, shapes, and distorts this experience. In extensive interviews, we listen as actual adolescent girls - white, black, and Latina, urban and suburban - talk candidly about their curiosity and confusion, their pleasure and disappointment, their fears, defiance, or capitulation in the face of a seemingly imperishable double standard that smiles upon burgeoning sexuality in boys yet frowns, even panics, at its equivalent in girls. Rather than trying to protect girls from sexual threats by denying their sexuality or sexual temptations, Tolman suggests that calmly acknowledging girls' sexual desire as real and normal can be an important way for parents to support their daughters' confidence in making their own decisions and resisting sexual peer pressure.". "Dilemmas of Desire vividly evokes girls' perplexity as they negotiate some of the most vexing issues of adolescence, all the while convinced that they are the only ones with these problems. As a thoughtful, richly informed examination of the dilemmas girls face, this revealing book begins the critical work of understanding the sexuality of young women in all its personal and social significance."--BOOK JACKET.

304 pages ; 24 cm

"Is Your Sex Life "Normal"? Boy meets girl. The connection is electric. They fall in love, marry and have amazing sex. Soon there are children, and then grandchildren. They grow old, loving one another for the rest of their lives. What's wrong with this picture? Absolutely nothing, if you are one of the relatively small group of people whose lives work out this way. What's wrong is that we've defined this as "normal," which makes most of us "abnormal." In Sex Outside the Lines, Dr. Chris Donaghue describes the holes in society's definition of "normal," taking a sharp eye to institutions such as marriage, cheating, virginity, identity, and sexual orientation. He also examines all the ways that accepting society's "truths" have led to the demise of long-term relationships and sexual pleasure. All of this misinformation is showing up in your bedroom and preventing you from having the sex life you're entitled to. In Donaghue's years of training in sex and couples therapy, he has developed highly successful methods for freeing clients from sexual hang-ups, enabling them to let go of shame and embarrassment. Donaghue pulls apart cultural phobias with a "sex positive" therapy practice, a kind of sexual deprograming that helps people see and accept the desires they have-even if they don't align with societal expectations-are really natural, healthy, and part of having a great sex life. "--